Here I sit, alone with my thoughts. Feeling a little lonely. Sometimes it is difficult to find the quiet peace inside my mind that I crave. With one deep breath, I whisper to myself that I got this and as I exhale, shadows of doubt creep inside. What is this life meant to be? Where am I supposed to be? What am I meant to do?
Maybe I am just reaching the crossroads in my life that I hadn’t considered I may ever be standing at. The place where inner turmoil is crashin’ & banging around me, trying to steal my soul. I’ve lived thru so much mental chaos; much of which has been self inflicted. Looking back, I wish I had closed [slammed] the door and never looked back. I wish I had been the person I am today. So many days I find myself wishing for a big red reset button. I mean, why must we live thru so many things in this lifetime, living to learn, grow and become a better, kinder, gentler soul, to end up here? Alone with my thoughts. I do not want to become jaded deep rooted but I can easily imagine how one can end up in that place.
I always had this great fear of no one really knowing me; the real me, the one who hides inside behind the smile and positive persona. I still have that fear. In my heart of hearts (whatever that truly means), I believe that is life’s greatest accomplishment. And that person is the one who is meant to be by your side when you take your final breath. Maybe I just romanticize and that really doesn’t exist. Or perhaps it just doesn’t exist for me.
So the great fear is now magnified with the fear of someone knowing all parts of you and walking away, still turning their back on you, in your most vulnerable moments. And leaving you feel more alone than you had initially. I suppose it may come down to ones perception; I know & understand how hard it really can be to step outside our own walls to check in on someone else. Hard is the wrong word. It’s isn’t hard. Sometimes we become so self driven & self focused, that we neglect to nurture those who care about us. That neglect, that we mindlessly overlook with simple disregard, can manifest and morph into a greater sense of gloom for the forgotten person.
LIfe meant to be shared. All parts. The good stuff, the “things I hate about myself” stuff [those things are very hard to sometimes even admit to then share with another human] & the dark stuff: moments you would rather forget. Once brought into light, well, it makes them feel no so dark knowing that someone is sharing your pain, your history, your fears; and choosing to stay there and tell you its okay. And it’s going to be okay.
I am trying lately to really understand people. To understand their motives, their purpose in your world. I am also understanding why we hold on to a person who is no longer a part of our lives either because of our choices or that we don’t fit into their world. Understanding is hard. Letting go is harder.
So tonight, I am mulling over so many questions in my mind. And that damn “why” question keeps jumping into my brain. I remember my therapist telling me “when you can let go of the question why, you will be more at peace and able to live mindfully”. I get it, regardless of the answers I believe that “makes sense” to me, it will never satisfy the question because I have to own that i don’t really know the answers. Ugh… I’m not even making sense. It is confusing in my own brain let along trying to express it in words here. Why is it not possible to have someone get it without having to explain…
I’m feeling loopy. I’ve been here all day in loopy-land [population: me]. Sleep eludes me yet again. I wish my brain had an off switch or even a pause button. I guess only I have that power and I should use it now…
Radiocheck… *silence*. Wilco. Over & out.
Good night moon. You may be the only one listening.